TALES OF RAISING THE SAME SEX CHILDREN
Dear Reader,
After my third son was born, I often heard the comment that 'NOW, I WAS TRULY THE QUEEN".
These individuals most certainly did not have all boys.
While I would agree that I hold a unique role in my family - the promoter of feelings, supporter of communication, kindness, consideration and cooperation - I think that is just me and I would be the same had I not had all boys.
As for the '"QUEEN" - perhaps they meant QUEEN WORKER BEE.
Imagine a volleyball game in which I am on one side and my three sons and husband are on the other side. That is a better portrayal.
When my sons were younger, I would joke that I thought I was becoming a mother but instead became a sergeant in training. Alas, that is when I coined the phrase M.O.B (Mothers of Boys) as it so fits the tough and strong character that one must have when raising boys.
Now that my sons are all in their teenage years (ages "almost" 12, 16 and 19), I often feel more like I am in the mens locker room. My youngest son has moved into the phase of belching at the dinner table and needing to debate any and everything we discuss, my middle son can jump from lovingly playing around and roughing up my youngest son one minute to being critical and bossy the next , and my oldest son enjoys making side jokes about all that we do (which usually but not always) keeps us laughing.
But, M.O.B. members take heart! I recently listened as my husband and kids were eating dinner while I was in the other room working and heard my middle son say, "Can't you all be civilized and have a nice conversation" - the very words I often espouse. So, maybe I have made a difference!
For a wonderful book with insights into the roles women play and our incredible potential,
read: WHAT'S HOLDING YOU BACK by Dr. Linda Austin
Signed A PROUD MEMBER OF THE M.O.B.
P.S. Write back and tell us your story. Raising all boys or all girls is a unique opportunity that we must have been destined for, so we might as well learn from it!
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